Showers

School Showers

Different schools have different policies on school showers. A lot of schools have instituted a policy where boys don't need to shower or can shower in their shorts. Obviously, I'm firmly in the “take a shower” camp. If you can take a shower, the best two periods to take it are first and last; first period allows you to get your blood pumping early in the morning, so you're good for the rest of the day, as well as grab a quick shower before your first academic class, and last period allows you to be clean for whatever you have planned that afternoon.

As for the nudity, this is where things start to get weird. You need to get comfortable with your body, and the best way to do that is just take showers with guys. If you don't like your body, realize that you can train some and what you can't train you can't do anything about. A shower may be embarrassing the first few times, but you'll get over it. Some modesty is cool; that's fine. But you need to be comfortable with who you are, and the first step is being willing to be naked in front of people you know. You can argue that your equipment isn't the same as what you see, but it's a bogus argument when it comes to showers. So get naked if you can; it will help your self-confidence on a number of levels.

Inappropriate Nudity

Okay, so I'm advocating for nudity in showers and some swimming situations. But where do I stand on nudity in general? That's complicated. You have hit on one of your more exhibitionist ages; on one hand you want to hide what you have because it's just so weird, but on the other you want to show off your new equipment. After all, you're finally a man, and you want to show it off. It doesn't help that you know if you want to play doctor with that hot person over there, you going to have show yours to see hers.

All of this fine; it's a very healthy reaction. Feeling comfortable to walk around in nothing but underwear at home, especially if it's a hot day, is even okay. However, there is a limit. If everyone else is wearing something, even swimwear, so should you be. Some people prefer nudity; in and of itself, that's fine. The problem is when you feel charged or a little excited when you are naked; if that's the case, you may be an exhibitionist, and it may be time to seek some counseling. I'm obviously not advocating against naturism; I'm just saying that it should feel natural, and if you are feeling sexually charged there is nothing natural about it. Just something to consider...

Another issue is when you are around a group of guys, and they require you to be naked all the time, especially if it's just you, then you may want to re-think your friendship. Don't take me too literally on this; skins vs. shirts games and skinnydipping with just the guys doesn't count here. But if they insist on your undressing, even partially, then there may be something else going on, possibly attempts at molesting you, and so you should really think about why you are hanging around those guys.

Overall, just remember that your body is yours, and try to keep that in mind. It won't get you out of school showers, but it should make life a lot easier for you. At least in the long run...