Now that you know why you want to kill your father, there is some good news. Sort of.
Traditions
The first is that you are more receptive to traditions. Because of the sheer tumultuousness of puberty, you are looking for a rope to keep you tethered to reality. As such, traditions do a splendid job of this. As they link you to the past, they create a psychological anchor that you can hold on to even as the rest of your life seems to be changing into something that you can't handle. They remind you that others have survived, and that you will as well.
Better yet, they are also a useful way for lessons and information to be passed down to you that would be more difficult in other ways. Families with a hunting tradition, for example, usually teach the kid a lot about hunting at this age, from tracking to dressing to killing the animal. your father and other relatives are going to see this as a last chance to teach you about anything except sex, and will take full advantage of it. As such, expect a lot of arcane knowledge to be passed down at this stage. Of course, also expect a lot of hazing at this stage and try to enjoy it.
New Responsibilities
You also have new abilities at this age, and those abilities are of use to your family. Not only are bigger, and thus stronger, you are also more patient, able to follow instructions better, and basically capable of dealing with bigger responsibilities. As such, you will be helping with families more as well as doing more. You should actually encourage this new abuse, as it will allow you to learn habits that will serve you well in later years. You now start establishing yourself and creating your own reputation, and one that is separate from your father's or other brothers.
At the same time it also presents you with new areas in which to mess up and lose control. The good news that it is expected; any intelligent person knows that someone new to something will screw up and that it's just a matter of time. The key question is not how badly you will screw up, but how you handle it. Learn to be patient with yourself, and don't be too embarrassed when you do screw up, and you should be fine. And, yes, you will be angry at yourself; that's fine and people will expect it. Just don't wallow in it too much.
Warning Label!
You may want fathers to read this part!
Here's the fun part: The two of you are engaging on a journey where the rules have changed. It's important to recognize that the rules have changed, or are changing, and that you need to allow for those changes. You're not yet a full adult, and some room needs to be allowed for you to make mistakes. At the same time, you need to opportunity to make those mistakes as well. On one hand you need to be given more leeway, but that you also need to show more of your reasoning before you do things, at least until others are assured of your ability to deal with those greater responsibilities.
Something that needs to be noted is that the relationship is changing from adult/kid to adult/adult. The boy is becoming capable of making more adult decisions, but still needs a firm hand. You can let them off on their own, but make sure that they check in every so often.
Turning 13 isn't some mystical magical number where you all of a sudden have greater insight. You need to recognize that there will be increased friction between you and your father; there will be numerous times where you think that you deserve greater leeway, and yet he may not see it that way. You need to learn how to bargain, but also trust in your father's judgment when you aren't given what you want. You're too old to act like a spoiled child, but you also also need to learn how to persist but when to back down. Learn all of that, and you should do well over the next few years. Remember that logic should rule your actions, even though emotions may be more fun. After all, the goal of this guide is to help you survive until 18!
Traditions
The first is that you are more receptive to traditions. Because of the sheer tumultuousness of puberty, you are looking for a rope to keep you tethered to reality. As such, traditions do a splendid job of this. As they link you to the past, they create a psychological anchor that you can hold on to even as the rest of your life seems to be changing into something that you can't handle. They remind you that others have survived, and that you will as well.
Better yet, they are also a useful way for lessons and information to be passed down to you that would be more difficult in other ways. Families with a hunting tradition, for example, usually teach the kid a lot about hunting at this age, from tracking to dressing to killing the animal. your father and other relatives are going to see this as a last chance to teach you about anything except sex, and will take full advantage of it. As such, expect a lot of arcane knowledge to be passed down at this stage. Of course, also expect a lot of hazing at this stage and try to enjoy it.
New Responsibilities
You also have new abilities at this age, and those abilities are of use to your family. Not only are bigger, and thus stronger, you are also more patient, able to follow instructions better, and basically capable of dealing with bigger responsibilities. As such, you will be helping with families more as well as doing more. You should actually encourage this new abuse, as it will allow you to learn habits that will serve you well in later years. You now start establishing yourself and creating your own reputation, and one that is separate from your father's or other brothers.
At the same time it also presents you with new areas in which to mess up and lose control. The good news that it is expected; any intelligent person knows that someone new to something will screw up and that it's just a matter of time. The key question is not how badly you will screw up, but how you handle it. Learn to be patient with yourself, and don't be too embarrassed when you do screw up, and you should be fine. And, yes, you will be angry at yourself; that's fine and people will expect it. Just don't wallow in it too much.
Warning Label!
You may want fathers to read this part!
Here's the fun part: The two of you are engaging on a journey where the rules have changed. It's important to recognize that the rules have changed, or are changing, and that you need to allow for those changes. You're not yet a full adult, and some room needs to be allowed for you to make mistakes. At the same time, you need to opportunity to make those mistakes as well. On one hand you need to be given more leeway, but that you also need to show more of your reasoning before you do things, at least until others are assured of your ability to deal with those greater responsibilities.
Something that needs to be noted is that the relationship is changing from adult/kid to adult/adult. The boy is becoming capable of making more adult decisions, but still needs a firm hand. You can let them off on their own, but make sure that they check in every so often.
Turning 13 isn't some mystical magical number where you all of a sudden have greater insight. You need to recognize that there will be increased friction between you and your father; there will be numerous times where you think that you deserve greater leeway, and yet he may not see it that way. You need to learn how to bargain, but also trust in your father's judgment when you aren't given what you want. You're too old to act like a spoiled child, but you also also need to learn how to persist but when to back down. Learn all of that, and you should do well over the next few years. Remember that logic should rule your actions, even though emotions may be more fun. After all, the goal of this guide is to help you survive until 18!
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