The major thing that sucks about puberty is the hormones. Right before puberty hits the average boy is filled with hormones as the body gears up for a lot of major renovations. If you think body hair and height are the major changes, then you are missing out on a lot of fun. However, one area that needs to be allowed for early on is the sheer amount of testosterone going through a boy's body.
On the physical side, it is responsible for a lot of what we associate puberty with, the merely physical changes that are pretty obvious. However, it is also responsible for a lot of personality changes as well. The biggest of these is the pure aggression that teenage boys feel, that pent-up rage that occasionally fills a boy and makes him do things he latter regrets. It bears noting that armies even today take advantage of that anger when they give a boy a weapon and minimal training when they send boys onto the battlefield. As his can happen to even the meekest boy it needs to be looked at for a moment.
Boys of this age tend to get in more blow-down fights than any other age. Younger boys fight, but they are really unlikely to do any damage to each other; they just don't have the musculature , training, or experience yet. Older boys try to avoid combat because even if they are good at it, they realize that there is a chance of serious damage being done and they have Ultimate Deterrent: Girls don't like violent boys. However, pubescent boys have both the skill and the muscles to do some actual damage, and the inclination to do so. This is the age where they get to show just how tough they are, and they are willing to do just about anything to prove it. Combined with the aggression they get from the sheer amount of testosterone in their system, and bad things are going to happen.
Because of this, boys need to try and moderate their emotions. Learning some form of meditation is a good idea, even if it's just closing your eyes and counting to ten. Finding ways to expend that anger, such as sports and chores, is another. If you are going to use physical exercise to deal with anger, it has to be something that is physically exhausting; gathering eggs is not going to work as effectively as digging holes. By the same token, chess is not gong to be as good in this context as a good game of basketball.
If you do find a means of dealing with your anger, let your parents know. A good parent will tell you do that activity when they see the anger rising rather than engage you. Take the hint and just walk straight there with no comment. Do not engage, as in keep shouting, talking back, or otherwise keep it going, and just start doing whatever they say. A good parent will take advantage of that and have you do some physically demanding chores while you are angry. Again, just do it without complaint and you should avoid the worst of the ramifications as well as gain some respect from those involved.
Anger does not need to rule you, and there are some advantages to figuring out how to make it work for you. But....be advised that it's a two-edged sword, and one that can get away from you quickly. Anger can be a demon, so figure out how to calm it quickly and you may have fewer problems later on.
On the physical side, it is responsible for a lot of what we associate puberty with, the merely physical changes that are pretty obvious. However, it is also responsible for a lot of personality changes as well. The biggest of these is the pure aggression that teenage boys feel, that pent-up rage that occasionally fills a boy and makes him do things he latter regrets. It bears noting that armies even today take advantage of that anger when they give a boy a weapon and minimal training when they send boys onto the battlefield. As his can happen to even the meekest boy it needs to be looked at for a moment.
Boys of this age tend to get in more blow-down fights than any other age. Younger boys fight, but they are really unlikely to do any damage to each other; they just don't have the musculature , training, or experience yet. Older boys try to avoid combat because even if they are good at it, they realize that there is a chance of serious damage being done and they have Ultimate Deterrent: Girls don't like violent boys. However, pubescent boys have both the skill and the muscles to do some actual damage, and the inclination to do so. This is the age where they get to show just how tough they are, and they are willing to do just about anything to prove it. Combined with the aggression they get from the sheer amount of testosterone in their system, and bad things are going to happen.
Because of this, boys need to try and moderate their emotions. Learning some form of meditation is a good idea, even if it's just closing your eyes and counting to ten. Finding ways to expend that anger, such as sports and chores, is another. If you are going to use physical exercise to deal with anger, it has to be something that is physically exhausting; gathering eggs is not going to work as effectively as digging holes. By the same token, chess is not gong to be as good in this context as a good game of basketball.
If you do find a means of dealing with your anger, let your parents know. A good parent will tell you do that activity when they see the anger rising rather than engage you. Take the hint and just walk straight there with no comment. Do not engage, as in keep shouting, talking back, or otherwise keep it going, and just start doing whatever they say. A good parent will take advantage of that and have you do some physically demanding chores while you are angry. Again, just do it without complaint and you should avoid the worst of the ramifications as well as gain some respect from those involved.
Anger does not need to rule you, and there are some advantages to figuring out how to make it work for you. But....be advised that it's a two-edged sword, and one that can get away from you quickly. Anger can be a demon, so figure out how to calm it quickly and you may have fewer problems later on.
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