Consider soccer: For most kids it was just a way to enjoy some time with a father or older sibling. Then there was the exhilaration of physical activity, as a lot of pent-up energy exploded across the field in the form of a young kid. As victory became more important so did tactics and strategy, debating not only how to get the ball across the field but whether or not a red card is worth it. Of course, for some it just something that they do to release anger or stress, and others may be good at it, but they are just for the team.
In short, motivations change.
You may still play soccer, but why you play changes over time. It may change form year to year or even change daily. Some times you may be looking at the game coldly and analytically, trying to simply get better and other times you attack the game with a red-hot passion. But that's not the issue here; the issues is why you play the game.
You're going to find that your motivations for a lot of things change. This is fine, but the ramifications of that need to be looked at. Those changes are going to result in a lot of changes in your life, from clothes to friends. The former is pretty easy: You just decide to change your fashion sense one day, either because it looks like a little kid, or to honor a hero, or just because you want to be cool. All of these are fine, and are usually not remarked on, even though you may get some major compliments or serious insults for a while.
The friendship thing is, unfortunately, going to happen as well. You are going to lose friends, or at the very least the nature of those friendships is going to change. Part of the reason is that you may get into a big fight with some friends, and the disagreement tends to be big enough to create a rift in the friendship. Other friendships tend to drift apart; as kids get older they just tend to find different things that they like that are different from their friends, and so they start doing different things. Eventually, they are just not doing them together.
This "drifting" should not be seen as an issue. It's going to happen, even in great friendships. As people get older they just start to see things differently, and sometimes that difference is just too much to deal with. If they were really good friends, then they should be able to at least stay friendly; they will find that that there are some advantages to maintaining that friendliness down the road, even if it's just an acquaintance-level friendship. After all, they will develop their own contacts and skills, and that makes them great allies down the road.
In short, if you find yourself doing things differently or wake up to major changes in your life, don't sweat it. Things change over time, and this is just an side-effect of that. Expect it, and don't fear it or be mad when it happens. Change happens, just let it.
In short, motivations change.
You may still play soccer, but why you play changes over time. It may change form year to year or even change daily. Some times you may be looking at the game coldly and analytically, trying to simply get better and other times you attack the game with a red-hot passion. But that's not the issue here; the issues is why you play the game.
You're going to find that your motivations for a lot of things change. This is fine, but the ramifications of that need to be looked at. Those changes are going to result in a lot of changes in your life, from clothes to friends. The former is pretty easy: You just decide to change your fashion sense one day, either because it looks like a little kid, or to honor a hero, or just because you want to be cool. All of these are fine, and are usually not remarked on, even though you may get some major compliments or serious insults for a while.
The friendship thing is, unfortunately, going to happen as well. You are going to lose friends, or at the very least the nature of those friendships is going to change. Part of the reason is that you may get into a big fight with some friends, and the disagreement tends to be big enough to create a rift in the friendship. Other friendships tend to drift apart; as kids get older they just tend to find different things that they like that are different from their friends, and so they start doing different things. Eventually, they are just not doing them together.
This "drifting" should not be seen as an issue. It's going to happen, even in great friendships. As people get older they just start to see things differently, and sometimes that difference is just too much to deal with. If they were really good friends, then they should be able to at least stay friendly; they will find that that there are some advantages to maintaining that friendliness down the road, even if it's just an acquaintance-level friendship. After all, they will develop their own contacts and skills, and that makes them great allies down the road.
In short, if you find yourself doing things differently or wake up to major changes in your life, don't sweat it. Things change over time, and this is just an side-effect of that. Expect it, and don't fear it or be mad when it happens. Change happens, just let it.
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