Leadership isn't just important for the leader. At some point everyone in a group is going to be in the leader's chair whether or not they want to be there. That person's opinion will be the important one, and they will be giving instruction to the others. Sometimes it will be because they have the skills needed to complete a task that the group finds necessary to complete; sometimes it will be because someone needs to speak up. Regardless of the specifics, everyone needs to know when to take on the reins.
Most people like to remain in the shadows. This is easy to understand as the spotlight carries with it its own dangers, and the easiest way to avoid those dangers is to stay out of it. Any mistake you commit will be not be missed or forgotten as everything you do is in the open. There are always those that will tear down those in charge,either because they want the position themselves or because they feel it keeps the leader honest. Some just don't like authority and so tear at it in hopes that Chaos will reign. Being the leader means you carry a lot of targets on you.
Nonetheless, sometimes someone has skills that the group needs and that person needs to take control. This is just a temporary situation, and most people are more than happy with that. In this situation you need to remember that your time in charge is just temporary, and that you need to do the best you can. The better you are at giving instructions, the sooner your time in charge will be over and you can get back to whatever you were doing, and you'll have earned the respect of others.
Other times require that someone in the group go against the grain. The group may be about to do something really stupid that may lead it into dangerous territory, while at other times someone may have done something that needs to be corrected for the good of the group. When a bad decision may put the group at risk, someone needs to be aware of it. While the ideal is to let someone know before hand, such as taking one of the usual leaders aside and filling them in, you may have to do this in an open forum, such as a group meeting. You need to remember that you have a stake in the group's future, and that not speaking up out you as at much risk as your friends. In such a case you need to speak your piece. Once you have done that, you can slink back into the shadows.
Everyone has to take control at some point, even if it's just to speak up. It may be scary the first few times, but it does get more comfortable. More comfortable, but rarely does it make for a good fit, so you may never be completely comfortable when the spotlight is on you. As such, do what you need to do, do it quickly, and quickly you can return to your comfortable shadows. Just look at it as something that needs to be done, and you should be able to do it. A little courage is all you need, and you should be able to do exactly what you need to do.
Most people like to remain in the shadows. This is easy to understand as the spotlight carries with it its own dangers, and the easiest way to avoid those dangers is to stay out of it. Any mistake you commit will be not be missed or forgotten as everything you do is in the open. There are always those that will tear down those in charge,either because they want the position themselves or because they feel it keeps the leader honest. Some just don't like authority and so tear at it in hopes that Chaos will reign. Being the leader means you carry a lot of targets on you.
Nonetheless, sometimes someone has skills that the group needs and that person needs to take control. This is just a temporary situation, and most people are more than happy with that. In this situation you need to remember that your time in charge is just temporary, and that you need to do the best you can. The better you are at giving instructions, the sooner your time in charge will be over and you can get back to whatever you were doing, and you'll have earned the respect of others.
Other times require that someone in the group go against the grain. The group may be about to do something really stupid that may lead it into dangerous territory, while at other times someone may have done something that needs to be corrected for the good of the group. When a bad decision may put the group at risk, someone needs to be aware of it. While the ideal is to let someone know before hand, such as taking one of the usual leaders aside and filling them in, you may have to do this in an open forum, such as a group meeting. You need to remember that you have a stake in the group's future, and that not speaking up out you as at much risk as your friends. In such a case you need to speak your piece. Once you have done that, you can slink back into the shadows.
Everyone has to take control at some point, even if it's just to speak up. It may be scary the first few times, but it does get more comfortable. More comfortable, but rarely does it make for a good fit, so you may never be completely comfortable when the spotlight is on you. As such, do what you need to do, do it quickly, and quickly you can return to your comfortable shadows. Just look at it as something that needs to be done, and you should be able to do it. A little courage is all you need, and you should be able to do exactly what you need to do.
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