Why Alienation is Cool

Teenage is one of those things that we all suffer through individually. Up until now you had people that had shared in our life. When you hit a certain development point, so did your friends; you could thus discuss it with someone who was going through the same thing you were. However, puberty is different; you and your friends are going through it at different rates and so what is affecting you has probably already affected someone else or is about to affect someone else. Worse, there is no real predicting of which symptom will hit any of you next.

All of this creates an alienation from everyone you know. You are simply not as connected as you once were, and so you feel a little weird around your friends. This is fine; you are re-defining your relationships, even how you relate to people, and so there is going to be that disconnect for a little while. All it means is that you are re-evaluating your relationships, and that is not necessarily a bad thing. Looking at your relationships is not a bad thing; you need to look at the people you know and how they affect you every so often.

This means that elders you once trusted are looked at suspiciously. You are looking at friends to determine which will help you and which are hurting you. You are even looking at siblings and parents in a different light. Heck, you are even having what you think are weird thoughts about girls, and that is definitely not a bad thing.

Ultimately these are going to be some weird years for. You do not have the emotional security you used to, you can’t trust everyone around you completely, and that’s no doubt scary. However, realize that it’s not necessarily a bad thing, as it gives you a chance to redefine your relationships and to look at the people around you in a different light; although it can be scary, it can also be sort of cool, as you have a chance to really get to know people you know, and some of it may shock you, some of it may comfort you, but it is definitely going to make life interesting.