Part of being a teenager is having to deal with anger issues. There was a reason that kids used to be tossed into battle: All of that testosterone in your system is building a new you, with bigger muscles, more hair, and an interest in sex, but it's also ensuring that you have some serious anger issues. The easiest way you have of dealing with the extra anger is to lash out at those closest to you, hoping that they can deal with it and that they don't beat you too badly.
That extra anger to deal with can make life interesting, especially for your dad. You're going to lose your temper, frequently and sometimes visibly. The person who is most likely to deal with your bursts of temper is either your dad or an older sibling, usually because that's who you're yelling at. Yelling fights between kids and dads are legendary; it's par for the course of growing up. Even the most passive kid is more than likely to blow up at his dad at some point, and odds are good it's a moment he's been waiting for. It's not likely to make you feel good, and you're likely to fear for your life at least once. If you don't run from your dad at least once in your teen years there is actually probably something really wrong with your relationship.
Obviously too much yelling in a relationship is a bad thing, and it should never devolve into throwing punches. However, when it happens the best way is to get the yelling out of the way, and ignore that it happened; just chalk it up to having a good relationship. The cause behind the yelling must be dealt with, as sometimes the occasion was to get things out of your system. At the same time, respect that your dad is going to yell back, and he's usually louder; sometimes you need to yell just to yell. However, if there was something solid, an actual reason, that needs to be discussed it needs to be discussed.
The takeaway here is that dads and sons are going to yell at each other, and as long as that's it it's fine. If it was just yelling then the incident needs to be ignored, but if there was something serious it needs to be discussed. Yelling between kids and dads is a perfectly natural part of growing up, and something that needs to be allowed for. So lose your temper, but don't lose it completely.
That extra anger to deal with can make life interesting, especially for your dad. You're going to lose your temper, frequently and sometimes visibly. The person who is most likely to deal with your bursts of temper is either your dad or an older sibling, usually because that's who you're yelling at. Yelling fights between kids and dads are legendary; it's par for the course of growing up. Even the most passive kid is more than likely to blow up at his dad at some point, and odds are good it's a moment he's been waiting for. It's not likely to make you feel good, and you're likely to fear for your life at least once. If you don't run from your dad at least once in your teen years there is actually probably something really wrong with your relationship.
Obviously too much yelling in a relationship is a bad thing, and it should never devolve into throwing punches. However, when it happens the best way is to get the yelling out of the way, and ignore that it happened; just chalk it up to having a good relationship. The cause behind the yelling must be dealt with, as sometimes the occasion was to get things out of your system. At the same time, respect that your dad is going to yell back, and he's usually louder; sometimes you need to yell just to yell. However, if there was something solid, an actual reason, that needs to be discussed it needs to be discussed.
The takeaway here is that dads and sons are going to yell at each other, and as long as that's it it's fine. If it was just yelling then the incident needs to be ignored, but if there was something serious it needs to be discussed. Yelling between kids and dads is a perfectly natural part of growing up, and something that needs to be allowed for. So lose your temper, but don't lose it completely.
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