Moms have tend to forget that you are going through some interesting changes and that can create some interesting situations. The Top Three Adolescent Problems you have at this age are an obvious curiosity, a new-found modesty, and a regression to earlier bad habits. Because your mom isn't used to dealing with those problems, this can create some weird situations that need to be sort of addressed. Let's look at the bad habits issue.
You're going to find that some of the good habits that she has taken effort to instill in you will sort of be ignored. Most of these are in the area of chores and cleanliness, and they are caused by a your hormones. The chores are easy enough to explain: You see them as something a kid should do, and you are no longer a kid. You feel almost insulted when you need to do the same chores you did even a few years ago, and you think you need to be handling new responsibilities. That's fine; you should always be looking for something new. Just realize that they are chores that need to be done, and someone needs to do them. At the same time, it's not fair that your parents have their own jobs and then need to come home and clean up after you. It doesn't help that your body wants to stay up late, making you tired during the day and less likely to show any sort of patience.
[Late hours makes perfect sense for adolescent boys. They didn't have to compete with older men for girls as the old guys were asleep or resting from a busy day. Also, someone had to pull guard duty in case the group was attacked or animals went after the food, and it made better sense to put someone out there who didn't have valuable skills such as hunting or fighting yet. This meant that boys got geared for nights. However, in modern times those situations no longer apply and everything happens in the daytime, so boys tend to be a bit tired during the day.]
Now, keep in mind that you already a bit more aggressive anyway. Combined with your fatigue and wanting to be treated more as an adult, you are not going to want to do any chores, and that counts double for keeping your room clean (after all, you want to mark your territory, and if the rest of the house is clean, a dirty room is going to stand out as different). This means that you're going to do as little as possible around the house, even if your allowance is increased.
This creates a bit of irony: You're trying to be treated as more mature, but from your parents perspective you're acting as like little kid. If you're serious about being treated older, you need to help around the house, even if you hate doing it. The best thing about it is that if you do, you will find that your parents will allow you to do a lot more than you would expect to be able to do under normal expectations.
You're going to find that some of the good habits that she has taken effort to instill in you will sort of be ignored. Most of these are in the area of chores and cleanliness, and they are caused by a your hormones. The chores are easy enough to explain: You see them as something a kid should do, and you are no longer a kid. You feel almost insulted when you need to do the same chores you did even a few years ago, and you think you need to be handling new responsibilities. That's fine; you should always be looking for something new. Just realize that they are chores that need to be done, and someone needs to do them. At the same time, it's not fair that your parents have their own jobs and then need to come home and clean up after you. It doesn't help that your body wants to stay up late, making you tired during the day and less likely to show any sort of patience.
[Late hours makes perfect sense for adolescent boys. They didn't have to compete with older men for girls as the old guys were asleep or resting from a busy day. Also, someone had to pull guard duty in case the group was attacked or animals went after the food, and it made better sense to put someone out there who didn't have valuable skills such as hunting or fighting yet. This meant that boys got geared for nights. However, in modern times those situations no longer apply and everything happens in the daytime, so boys tend to be a bit tired during the day.]
Now, keep in mind that you already a bit more aggressive anyway. Combined with your fatigue and wanting to be treated more as an adult, you are not going to want to do any chores, and that counts double for keeping your room clean (after all, you want to mark your territory, and if the rest of the house is clean, a dirty room is going to stand out as different). This means that you're going to do as little as possible around the house, even if your allowance is increased.
This creates a bit of irony: You're trying to be treated as more mature, but from your parents perspective you're acting as like little kid. If you're serious about being treated older, you need to help around the house, even if you hate doing it. The best thing about it is that if you do, you will find that your parents will allow you to do a lot more than you would expect to be able to do under normal expectations.
No comments:
Post a Comment