Your parents are going to embarrass you. If they never have before, they will start doing so now. There are going to be those times when they do so on purpose, or at least threaten to, but you are likely to have nothing more embarrassing in your life than your parents. No matter how good your relationship may be or how great your parents, you will no doubt be embarrassed by them whenever your friends see them. Odds are good that you will want any other relative, including your older brother or sister, to drop you off at school. Don't feel like you are a terrible person; everyone does it.
There actually are some good reasons it happens. The biggest is that you are trying to recreate your image, and you want as many new things as possible, but as few old things as possible. You probably don't like the cartoons you used to, assuming you even watch cartoons, and you want to get rid of all the kiddie books you can. You no longer like coloring books, and odds are good you probably held out for an entire new wardrobe. You are doing what marketers call "rebranding" and there's northing wrong with that.
For some kids this is not merely symbolic: You're not the same kid were a few years ago, and you want to demonstrate that to everyone you know. You want to show everyone you know that you are independent, different, and someone that should be taken seriously, and wearing the same cute shirts just isn't going to cut it. You need to show others that you aren't the same kid they are used to; you're body isn't the only thing changing, and you have the black clothes and camo backpack to prove it.
However, you're also probably going to want to change out your parents. They belong with your former life, not your new one. It's hard to prove your independence if your parents are still driving you around. You also probably want a fresh perspective to match your fresh life, and that means hanging around someone else. This means that you're probably going to want to hang out with someone new, such as your older sibs or an uncle, or even a friend of the family. If you find an adult you like, you'll probably hang out with that adult as much as possible, especially if your parents don't like him (the more different from your parents the better, right?).
Good parents understand you want to change things up, and bad ones are glad you don't want to spend any more time with you than they need to, so this is a great thing for them. Nonetheless, keep in mind that you still want to hang out with them, and you may still have some common interests, such as television, sports, even hunting. Although you may be off trying new things, and finding a lot of things you like to do, remember that you need to spend some time with your parents; they like spending time with you, and they may have some use yet, so it's always good to make them happy.
There actually are some good reasons it happens. The biggest is that you are trying to recreate your image, and you want as many new things as possible, but as few old things as possible. You probably don't like the cartoons you used to, assuming you even watch cartoons, and you want to get rid of all the kiddie books you can. You no longer like coloring books, and odds are good you probably held out for an entire new wardrobe. You are doing what marketers call "rebranding" and there's northing wrong with that.
For some kids this is not merely symbolic: You're not the same kid were a few years ago, and you want to demonstrate that to everyone you know. You want to show everyone you know that you are independent, different, and someone that should be taken seriously, and wearing the same cute shirts just isn't going to cut it. You need to show others that you aren't the same kid they are used to; you're body isn't the only thing changing, and you have the black clothes and camo backpack to prove it.
However, you're also probably going to want to change out your parents. They belong with your former life, not your new one. It's hard to prove your independence if your parents are still driving you around. You also probably want a fresh perspective to match your fresh life, and that means hanging around someone else. This means that you're probably going to want to hang out with someone new, such as your older sibs or an uncle, or even a friend of the family. If you find an adult you like, you'll probably hang out with that adult as much as possible, especially if your parents don't like him (the more different from your parents the better, right?).
Good parents understand you want to change things up, and bad ones are glad you don't want to spend any more time with you than they need to, so this is a great thing for them. Nonetheless, keep in mind that you still want to hang out with them, and you may still have some common interests, such as television, sports, even hunting. Although you may be off trying new things, and finding a lot of things you like to do, remember that you need to spend some time with your parents; they like spending time with you, and they may have some use yet, so it's always good to make them happy.
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