Mothers can be hard to deal with for teenagers. This is an age when you are striving to be independent of parents as well as doing some things that you would prefer they don't comment on, and there she is being supportive and curious about everything you are doing. Sure, this is normally a good thing but there are some limits to the situation.
There's a number of issues involved in this problem, not the least is a sense of propriety. There just hits a point where not even your mom should not be allowed into the bathroom when you are taking a shower. Although you may not have a problem with it, there are some lines being crossed and your mom needs to allow you to take a shower by yourself. This also applies to sleeping; you should be allowed to wake yourself in the morning without having someone wake you. There will come a time when you appreciate this, if you don't already.
At some point you need to sit your mom down and tell her to back off a bit. Just merely point out that this is the age where you need an opportunity to experiment with your independence, to make your own decisions, while you still have her to fall back on should things get bad. If she raised you right then you should be able to make your own decisions, but if you do fall it would be nice to know that she has her back. You also need the chance to make your own stories, and that she needs to give you some space.
Also, you may want to mention that if she respects your status as an adult-in-training, then you need some privacy. Some of the changes you are going through are a bit embarrassing to you, and thus you need some space to explore those changes. Yes, if she brings up porn and masturbation you are allowed and actually required by law to glare at her. Just assure her that you aren't doing nor intend to do drugs or alcohol, face her denying that, and attempt to reassure her that you aren't. Unfortunately, this may require a few conversations and a few possibly embarrassing situations to take. Nonetheless, this is an important conversation, and not one either of you will soon forget.
There's a number of issues involved in this problem, not the least is a sense of propriety. There just hits a point where not even your mom should not be allowed into the bathroom when you are taking a shower. Although you may not have a problem with it, there are some lines being crossed and your mom needs to allow you to take a shower by yourself. This also applies to sleeping; you should be allowed to wake yourself in the morning without having someone wake you. There will come a time when you appreciate this, if you don't already.
At some point you need to sit your mom down and tell her to back off a bit. Just merely point out that this is the age where you need an opportunity to experiment with your independence, to make your own decisions, while you still have her to fall back on should things get bad. If she raised you right then you should be able to make your own decisions, but if you do fall it would be nice to know that she has her back. You also need the chance to make your own stories, and that she needs to give you some space.
Also, you may want to mention that if she respects your status as an adult-in-training, then you need some privacy. Some of the changes you are going through are a bit embarrassing to you, and thus you need some space to explore those changes. Yes, if she brings up porn and masturbation you are allowed and actually required by law to glare at her. Just assure her that you aren't doing nor intend to do drugs or alcohol, face her denying that, and attempt to reassure her that you aren't. Unfortunately, this may require a few conversations and a few possibly embarrassing situations to take. Nonetheless, this is an important conversation, and not one either of you will soon forget.
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